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So here's a little SEO training for you - my list of six tips to wooing a woman (or even getting a backlink):
1. On the first meeting don’t be too fresh.
Sometimes being too self-confident is perceived as being arrogant. Arrogant men are not well liked - even as friends - and are a major turn off for women.
In the same way you definitely can be too confident when sourcing back links. Don't believe that your site has the right to get back links from other sites. You need to explain why it's worth while to put a link from your client on another website. Give a good reason. Does your site have lots of useful information? Does it give value to visitors?
So don't send emails demanding that your backlink is placed on another site, explain why it's worthwhile to have this link. Never send emails demanding backlinks because your client is a major player in some sector type or business. Remember it can take many months, even years, to gain that "special partner" so don't be too demanding.
2. Be a gentleman.
Opening a door, pulling out a chair all show that you care and that she is special enough to be treated well.
Similarly you should be courteous and polite when you contact a prospect for a back link. If you email or phone, make sure that you are polite, address the contact correctly, explain how you have found the website, what positives you found when you looked at the site ( "I really liked the web design", "I really liked the content you have added", "the site is really good - I found this section really good"). Explain clearly and simply what you are looking for and why you think it would be great to have a back link to your site.
3. Little things mean a lot.
Letters or notes saying how much you love her; red roses given even when there are no special occasions are small little things that can melt a woman’s heart.
It's surprising how much the little things matter when sourcing backlinks too. If it's an informational site or blog you are sourcing a backlink from - send an email and offer to write guest posts regularly. Very often webmasters and bloggers have limited amount of time to write content and will see this as a welcome addition.
If you are sending an email requesting a backlink make sure that you include the anchor text details and a short description - send the programming code for the backlink in html format as well as hyperlinks. Webmasters are always busy and if you can send all the details in a format so that they can be copied an pasted into the programming code there's more chance that a webmaster will add the link.
4. Make time for her family, especially her parents.
It shows you care for those she cares about and that would give you additional points in her heart.
Once you've got a backlink keep in touch with the webmaster. Don't ignore them. It's important that you build a good relationship with the webmaster that has given you a backlink. They have done you a favour. They didn't need to put a link on their web site and they could remove it if they want. It costs nothing to send an email asking how they are and asking if they need any help with content.
By building up a good relationship with webmasters who are in the know you can often get good backlinks on other similar niche sites or networks - often by word of mouth from other webmasters.
5. Listen when she speaks.
Women want men to listen when they say something. It shows that you care about her thoughts, concepts and beliefs and that you are not one insensitive person.
It's important to listen to what webmasters, especially those with niche web sites, are saying. Before you go out sourcing backlinks, make sure you understand who you are dealing with. By listening you get to understand a particlular niche much better and can build up real lasting relationships with webmasters.
Most importantly if a webmaster who has given you a backlink contacts you, make sure you reply to them.
6. Don't be selfish.
Selfishness is one of the biggest turn offs for women. Ask any woman and they will tell you so.
Don't be selfish when linkbuilding. Webmasters may want something in return for adding a link to their site. It may be a reasonable request - a mention on your client's site, a sponsorship of a particular section in their own website site or help with content. By refusing to help you may sour the relationship and inevitably not get the backlink you're looking for.
